Time is flying. This will be the last monthly post I write while on maternity leave, as I return to work on Monday. I know it’s time to get back to the real world, but it’s going to be hard to leave my boys again, after getting used to spending every day with them. At least I won’t have to send them to daycare just yet, as D will be taking the next 4 weeks off to stay home with them.
Here’s what’s going on with Mr. E at five months…
Adjusted age: two months.
Stats: 10 lbs 13 oz and 21.5 inches long.
Milestones: Smiling and cooing! The best. He is such a happy little guy and quite talkative too. I’m really looking forward to those first laughs next.
Sleeping: Dare I say it? I think we may have gotten a good sleeper this time. Or at least compared to Theo. He wakes up one or two times per night, but lately it’s usually just one time. And he slept completely through the night twice! Of course, T was only up 2-3 times per night until he hit the four-month sleep regression, and then he was up practically hourly until he was about nine months old. So I don’t fully trust E’s sleep habits just yet. Naps are pretty inconsistent — sometimes he’ll sleep almost all day and just wake up to eat. Other days he barely sleeps at all. I had hoped to be on a little more of a schedule by the time I went back to work. I guess D will have to figure it out himself.
Eating: This continues to be the area where we struggle most, but has finally turned a corner and we’re doing more nursing than bottles. We’re down to about 3-4 bottles per day (3 oz each) and nursing the rest. Nursing is going better, most of the time, though there are some frustrating days where I can’t seem to get him composed or focused enough to stay latched. When we’re home alone we can usually work through it with a little patience, and I have the option to go make a bottle if he gets too frustrated. But when we’re out in public it’s harder to get him focused. He doesn’t always like the nursing cover, especially when he’s frustrated, and his frequent unlatching and flailing make it impossible to nurse discreetly sans cover without flashing everyone around me. But if I give a bottle, I have to pump to make up that feed to keep my supply up — which is even more inconvenient in public. When I go back to work I’ll obviously need to pump while I’m away from him, but my ultimate goal is to only pump when we’re apart, and always nurse when we’re home together. I think we’re getting closer.
Personality: So sweet and happy. Even on his fussy days, “fussy” is about as escalated as he gets. He rarely even full-on cries. And now that he’s smiling and cooing, his happy personality is showing through even more.
Likes: Bath time! I’ve started putting the boys in the tub together (well, I put E’s baby tub in the big tub) and they both just love it. E kicks and talks to big brother, who loves to help me wash him. He also loves having his diaper changed. T was like that too. We called it his “reset button.” If he was fussy and we changed him he’d suddenly get so focused on what we were doing that soon he was smiling and talking and forgot why he was upset. So far E is the same.
Dislikes: Still reflux. We’ve got the head of his bed elevated, we keep him upright after feeds and he’s on Prevacid, but he’s still so grunty and arches his back in pain often. I’m really hoping he grows out of it soon.
Mama: Still shedding like crazy, though it seems like it may finally be slowing. I’m surprised I have any hair left. I’m chopping my hair tomorrow and am hoping that makes everything more manageable.
I’m feeling kind of sad about my maternity leave coming to an end, since this is the last time we’re doing this, and I wish I had done more with the time I had. I had visions of taking the boys on frequent outings, having dinner made every night, and doing all the things around the house I never have time for when I’m working. Instead, there were more days than I’d care to admit where I managed to squander my entire morning juggling the very different needs of an infant and a three year-old, and by the time I finally cleaned up the breakfast dishes and reheated my coffee for the eighth time, it was time to start lunch, followed by nap and then we were stuck at home until T woke up, and then it was time to start dinner. Entire days simultaneously dragged on and passed in the blink of an eye. Yesterday, my last day of maternity leave, I felt like I managed to do things “right” – I took the boys to the zoo, took Theo out to ice cream, and then nursed Emmett in the park while Theo played. It was a day full of the things I imaged maternity leave would be… of course, I skipped my shower and we missed Theo’s nap, so something had to give! But it truly was a great day, and I ended my leave on a high note.
Onto month six…(!)
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Thank you for writing these posts. Darling kids and amazing mom! Lovies, C
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Just wanted to wish you the best of luck on your first day back. The first day is always the hardest ❤
Both boys look wonderful. I so enjoy your updates. I, too, am having more pangs of “this is my last…” as my E gets bigger.
Going back to work is always hard but thank goodness for D being home. That will help…especially with cold and flu season here already. I am dying to meet E but we have had some form of cold here already since preschool started in September. Boo! And I’m terrified of being the reason he would get sick.
Congrats on the nursing. YOU are amazing for sticking it out. If it’s worth anything…both of my kids had a regression latch. When they were going through a developmental leap their latch got worse…E in particular has a bit of a tongue tie so as a little baby it was not a great latch. Every new thing she’s learned I go through a day, a week and sometimes more of a regression with her latch. So I can empathize with the distract-a-baby on/off/flash people mode. Neither of my kids enjoyed the cover. I gave it up with her. A lady in Florida had a youtube video on how she nursed in the summer heat – tank tops and tshirts and from that I learned to cover as much as I could with my clothes. Turns out the Internet will teach you anything you want to know.
Reflux is a b*tch. Some cases better and some worse. E kicked at 4.5 months (still has it but it doesn’t bug her and she is off meds) and B didn’t kick the meds until he was 8 or 9 mo – about 2 or 3 mo after solids.
Having a toddler and an infant is not for the weak. I have basically adjusted (lowered) my expectations. Lol! If the kids eat, if B naps and if I get 1 chore done in a day I’m a rock star. If we’ve managed to go somewhere cool that is off the charts.
You are a great mommy. Snuggle those boys and thanks for sharing your heart(s).